Having an understanding of all of this does help ease some of the PAIN.
Yes, knowledge is power. It helps me know that I’m smarter than some of the decisions I’ve made.
You don't have to feel guilty for getting out and having a good time!
It’s that whole letting him go thing. I don’t know day to day if he wants me around, company to talk to, or if it’s an alone day. I have given him to much power over that even though he never asked for it, I freely tethered myself to this house, him, the kids.
Don’t want to admit it because *it means their weak. * Which it doesn't. My H told me he's never been lower in his life that he can't get any lower, and in the next breath said he's not depressed.
You hit it! I’m have not been on that coaster since I found this site with no intentions of getting back on. I do not want to get sucked into any one else’s condition again. H has been much quieter lately, not quit the vampire of the last 2yrs, too bad I wasn’t stronger and smarter sooner.
He is definitely peeking his head out of the tunnel looking for any sign of life.
Get his answer, which you DON'T INTERNALIZE
The hardest thing I’ve ever done…but the most beneficial thing I’ve had to learn so far. I was getting sick (high blood pressure, stomach issues) from the anxiety I was putting myself through by internalizing every word H would say. Now I realize it’s a spew with half-truth behind it…thanks to this site.
Thanks everyone for your words of wisdom…I do listen, read and reread everything.
Today was a good mix of me, kids, H, family life. Notice I put me first!
The past can't be ahead of you in the future. You don't have to figure it all out, just pick a direction. What's next...I don't know but I can't wait!
