Divorced.. #2

[Carnac]

So many similarities indeed. My son spends most of his time at his moms playing the playstation online or surfing youtube videos on her ipad. From what he says she's happy to let him do it b/c she's always texting on her phone. And it interesting you mention drinking b/c my W was never much on drinking and since we split has been drinking quite often. I guess its true that they become the embodiment of everything they claimed to dislike about us.

Keep strong and keep working, theres no way of knowing if he'll ever look back to you, but you've gotta do the work anyway so make haste in case he does.

[Mrs D]

Keep strong and keep working, theres no way of knowing if he'll ever look back to you, but you've gotta do the work anyway so make haste in case he does.

AGREED!! And you do the same as well.

[Mrs D]

. And it interesting you mention drinking b/c my W was never much on drinking and since we split has been drinking quite often. I guess its true that they become the embodiment of everything they claimed to dislike about us.

As an after thought - do you think the drinking starts up more because they ARENT happy with themselves at this moment of time? I think in my Hs case, thats what she does. So hes along for the ride.. Just my thought..

[Carnac]

We're getting into mind-reading at its best, but someone who doesn't drink and is suddenly drinking is obviously trying to numb something. I don't know about happy w/ themselves or unhappy with themselves so much as just not wanting to feel I think.

LOL now thats some mind reading.

[Mrs D]

We're getting into mind-reading at its best, but someone who doesn't drink and is suddenly drinking is obviously trying to numb something. I don't know about happy w/ themselves or unhappy with themselves so much as just not wanting to feel I think.

LOL now thats some mind reading.

LOL - well thats what I would have thought as well. If I were a mind reader that is... LOL Have a good night at therapy. I believe I am off until after. I have to rewrite my letter to my Mom. Been putting it off all week.... Take care.

[Brian in Hville]

I want you to know that I was once where you are now. I know how I wanted the quick fix. I know I wanted my ex to see that I had changed. I believed in my heart that we would end up back together. But I also knew I needed to fix me first. Unfortunately, I wasn't able to get my ex back. But I can't tell you just how happy and better I feel about myself. I was responsible for a lot of our marriage problems. But I know I have learned the skills to make sure it doesn't happen again.

I'm not telling you to give up on your exH...HELL NO! If that is what you want, then do it. Just work on you first. I will add you to my prayer list and will follow your thread.

Brian

[Mrs D]

Thanks Brian. Alot!! Can I ask if there was anything that you could do differently through this process, what would it have been?

[Mrs D]

So Im sitting in my therapist parkinv lot reading DR again to waste time. H calls because our son is having a meltdown after crashing his motorcycle. First thing he says to me is C wants you to cancel your appt and come get him. Im like.... I cant do that. Then I thought, he knows I wouldnt do that and why would he call to ask and make me feel like the bad guy for not getting him? It was all weird to me. So I spoke to our son, told him why I couldnt leave. Calmed him done..... I really dont understand the phone call still......

Back to reading DR...

[~ kd ~]

Well done.

[Mrs D]

Well done.

Maybe I am getting a lil stronger? ?? :-)