the vision of how you have handled the last few interactions in H's mind... perhaps letting him deal with that and w/ himself right now.. and the uproar he has created...on his own.
yes ng - thanks - i have to let things settle in with him.
there was more last night - i'm working on this image he has in his mind - he's sort of fixated on the fact that "zig, your income is always going to be zero, and you will have to depend on me"
so i let him know that i had thought about all the stuff laid on the table for the settlement yesterday and that he was coming out much worse off than me, so i was going to waive aside my share of his retirement income.
at the meeting he said the same - and i laughed and said - oh h i'll probably be making more than you in the next few years. it's true that for the next year or so, i will need some alimony until my income is more stable, but i fully intend to have included in the settlement that it is temporary and will taper off in the next 2 yrs!
i'm done with him implying in any way that i am still pathetic!!
gosh ng - i am still so fired up about this whole thing - but coming down slowly and as i do, things are just becoming more and more clear to me about where i stand on all these issues.
i am really coming into myself here.
(((((((( ))))))))) to you too zig
me 46 H 38 M10yrs T 11 S10 BD ow 8/11 h filed 9/25/12
"if i could define enlightenment briefly, i would say it is the quiet acceptance of what is"
