Welcome. All I can offer is that I know the feeling of something being wrong, but not knowing what to do about it. And then the bus splatters you across the sidewalk and you think where did that come from?
Follow those 37 steps, detach, be patient. Remember your wife chose you all those years ago. She chose you once, and if you give it enough time and fix your own issues, she may choose you again. But it's not something you can rush.
M: 34 W: 33 T: 11y M: 4y Bomb: 6/29/2012 Same roof, different rooms: 8/5/2012