So here's my story --

[MrBond]

"Obviously I can say that, yet I'm afraid it fall upon deaf ears. "

Doesn't matter. What matters is that you say it and that it tells them that you are handling your own sh*t.

Aside from the dig you just made about her on the phone, how do you two talk about the kids? Businesslike? Do you do things together with them like birthdays, school functions, etc.? There's a fine line between avoiding your spouse and neglecting your kids' needs.