Wendy, I understand your frustration w/your h concerning the phone. My xh wanted the utilities put in my name just 30 days after he left, but he had to either go in person or authorize the change over the phone. He threatened to have my phone disconnected while my 81 yr old father was in the hospital having hip replacement surgery. Thank goodness the PI had gotten his apartment number. I called and told him just what I thought and pointed out that he was the one holding the issue up and to get up off his @ss and call Verizon. I hung up and immediately called Verizon and I had a representative who was absolutely wonderful and immediately processed my request based on what I told her. My xh never contacted anyone at Verizon or the electric or water companies. I did it all...just by explaining he nasty behavior.
Bottom line, he's not going to help you in any way. You are going to have to go in and take him off of your account by having his phone cut off. If you don't, you'll be carrying him on your account for a very long time. Advise him that this is the last time you are going to ask him. If he doesn't cooperate and work with you on this, you will take the necessary action to have him removed from your account, which means...phone service is cut off.
Wendy, don't rely on him for anything. He's basically leaving it all up to you. I hope that I am wrong about this, but my xh did absolutely nothing in the way of changing out joint credit cards, etc.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
