I didnt mean to sound like you gave her an ultimatum, I just meant that you made your feelings clear. I only mentioned giving mine an ultimatum b/c I know eventually i'll have to if nothing changes, but im with you on this one, I dont know the date of that yet, but its a long way off.
And its awesome to hear that your going to be fine either way, I really wanna say that, but in my heart I just have such a hard time with it still. Even on my good days, and today is one of those for sure, I miss my wife terribly and while I know that feeling will fade I can't even imagine seeing her with someone else. I read somewhere onetime one of the ways to figure out if your ready to be done with a R is to imagine that person with someone else and see how it affects you. Honestly I can hardly bear the thought of it, and its not a 'i have to win' thing...its a we have almost 15 years of history and im absolutely crazy about her thing.
Anyway, wasn't trying to be a downer today, its a wonderful Wednesday and no matter this sitch there is plenty in life to be happy about, we've just gotta focus on that rather than the other.
