Divorced.. #2

[Mrs D]

Mrs.D. Even though you are now D, I personally do not think that you need to give up and move on.

There are plenty of stats (even if they are low) that indicate some people DO reconnect and re-marry.

If that is what you want. If your X is not now M to someone else, then even though he is seeing an OW, he MIGHT still be available.

You are getting some really good advice if you do want to pursue that route, IMHO.

It is a good idea if you move forward with the idea that you are D and may not ever re-connect with your H in anything more than a friendship way.

Right now... no matter WHAT you do... have no expectations...

No one has a crystal ball and who knows... if you work on yourself and your X notices... he might even approach you one day in the future and see if the two of you might get back together...

YOU decide how you want to proceed and working on yourself will benefit you, no matter what the future brings.

THANK YOU KD!!! I am working on myself, and to be honest - I get kinda giddy every Wednesday night cause I know Im going to therapy. I want to learn what is going on within me. I want to learn to make myself a better person. I am VERY determined in everything I do - and this one I will not toss to the side of the road. I took our marriage for granted. For three years. I just want to make that lost time up, and make it better for everyone in the long run.

I am trying really hard with the no expectations part. Only reason being is like I said - I know the conversations he had with many people 5 weeks ago. I dont care who you are - those feelings dont go away within 5 weeks. Im trying not to pounce. Really hard. But like so many people, and myself continually say - I have to fix myself first.

Thank you KD again for your thoughts.