To build attraction AND to build trust that changes are real, ie, that the M won't be the same as when the WAW left.
I believe that the love is already there in most of these situations. It just needs reawakened... rejuvenated.
What you pointed out is sometimes it's not love, but rather a lack of attraction. What ways do we create and maintain "spark" of attraction.
Agreed. I just mean that I believe that there is love between the WAS and the LBS. I don't believe that that simply goes away. That is why the WAS will use anger, change history, and look for other ways to validate their decision to leave or to have an A. They have to in order to suppress the loving feelings that I believe are probably still there... somewhere.
But yes, the spark is something that is definitely very difficult to create in these situations. I personally struggled with it for months.
M 43 X 38 T 13 W moves out of home 11/2010 Roller coaster from hell 2/2011-5/2012 I request divorce 5/2012 W moves home 6/2012 Good time 7/2012 - 1/2015 I leave 3/2016 process of divorce
