More patience??? Really???

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Hey Zig, Thanks for the hugs. An believe me, I'm not saying I didn't need the 2x4's. I just had to process them. I always appreciate the time and effort you put into your feedback.

More journal stuff;

Life continues to be a better normal. My W has made some comments lately that show some self-realization on her part.

First, she is worried about our D10 because she has not made close friendships in our new home like she had in our previous home. W indicated to our MCr that she see this as a mirror of how she has refused to adjust to our new home and what she is doing to help our D10 adjust as well.

Second, W made the comment about her frustrations with herself and how she spends money. This opened up another opportunity last night.

W told me that she had written a check to get our D10 started back into dance. This required me to move money to cover the check. This also meant that if we didn't get some funds in soon, we would not have enough to make a loan payment due this week. We are expecting a check for her work but her boss is being lazy about mailing to her.

I had worked up a document to help me see where all our money was going with bills & monthly expenses and how much that left out of my paycheck. Not a pretty picture. When W brought up money again last night I pulled out this document. I let her know that I knew this was a tough topic for her and that we didnt need to discuss it now but I wanted her to see the information so she could process it a bit before we talk.

She took it without complaining and looked over it some. Not sure when we will talk it over but it makes it very clear that unless she starts helping, we will not have the money to cover everything we need and want to do. And the positive is that neither of us has retreated into our corner as a result of the issue.