To Lovingly Detach

[Arsene]

I know that there is nothing I can do about it but it's like she keeps pushing the limits of the unacceptable.

It's now 22:30 and W and D8 are still not back and I got no news so I sent a text and still no replies. I finally called W and there was no answers so I called D8's phone and finally got a reply. They are still at the event out of town and W (who was next to D8) told me that they would be back around 2 am.

Is it just me or is this a bit unreasonable for a parent to keep her 8-year-old D up until 2 am?

It really troubles me because I had just made the resolution tonight to be more patient with W and to not expect anything and not to be judgmental, and then this. D8 has a history of getting sick when she doesn't get enough sleep and W knows this. I just don't understand her. I don't understand how she can be so irresponsible.

Nonetheless, I kept my cool on the phone. W told me that she had sent me a text (which I didn't receive) and I just told her that i was worried about their safety (which I was - roads in this country aren't safe).

I don't think I sounded annoyed and in the end I told her to have a good time and to be safe.

That is why I'm here venting now. It's so frustrating to see this and there is nothing I can do about any of it. Is she ever going to realise how selfish she is being? Or am I just judging her again? I don't know anymore. Have I not the right to worry about my D8? If she was going to be that late, maybe she shouldn't have taken her in the first place. What is happening to her? God! I want so much to love her and to support her but she is not helping me one bit now ,is she? Or am I just being unreasonable?