What if we all have a life while he's here fading...that's how it felt today when I returned from being out all day he looked like down. I almost felt guilty!
Glad you got the book, DM. It will give you tips on how to interact in a manner that could covertly lead your H to get help for his depression and/or draw him out of it to enjoy life again.
People don't know when they're depressed, and if they are they often don't want to admit it because *it means their weak.* Which it doesn't. My H told me he's never been lower in his life, that he can't get any lower, and in the next breath said he's not depressed. Seriously.
Depression isn't necessarily sad, although many think it is. Google ahedonia. It is the inability to experience pleasure, which sounds like where your H is at, and a core feature of depression. It becomes pervasive. You need to be subtle and gentle with this. Anne Sheffield's book offers lots of help in that regard.
Good luck.
me 45 H 46 T 5 M 2.5 BD Sept 6 2011 OW Sept 8 2011 Threw him out Sept 8 2011
