I Don't Like Mondays

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Last night I got a call from Ex crying. Apparently she was admiddited to the hospital with a twisted bowel and waited so long that they had to do emergency surgery. If should would have waited another day she'd be dead. Apparently she has a pretty bad infection in her kidneys also.

So I have D2 for a awhile, which I am happy to have the extra time, but not at the price of the unfortunate cause.

When Ex told me about the twisted bowel, I asked how do they think it happened. Apparently it was a complication from her gastric bypass 8 years ago! Ex and I always had our disagreements over whether the surgery is safe as the frequency of complications seem to be so high. She would always defend the surgery emphatically, even though we were talking about the surgery vs. the complications, not because SHE had the surgery. So when I heard this I said nothing more about it, except asking her to please take care. She abruptly said "I gotta go. I gotta go" and hung up.

Later on in the night her Mom calls asking if she could take D2 home for a couple of days if she can convince Ex to go home with her for a while. I have no idea what ex-MIL may be thinking as she is a professor; school starts tomorrow, and she said that she can't take time off at the beginning of school. She also reported that FIL is busy harvesting as he is a farmer.

So I told MIL I would have to think about it as I am fully capable of taking care of D2. I also don't want these 3 using D2 for their personal emotional needs and end up traumatizing her in the process. Maybe I am too sensitive in this area.

So tonight I am bringing D2 for a hospital visit, and told ex it was going to be short, as D2 always throws a fit whenever she gets transfered to me. D2 is also showing some signs of being worried about ex, which I am worried about.

I hate situations like this. I feel really bad for ex and want to be there for her, but am still treated like an unwanted dog so I stay away.