Results largely depend on the work you do. There are two things that immediately come to my mind, and those are (1) the wife sees you not needing her to be happy. You would still want her in your life....but you don't "need" her to make you happy. Make sense? That removes all the needy behavior you have displayed. Then (2) she needs to see what a great guy she would be giving up. That puts you in the spotlight. Your focus is being a man that only a fool would leave. That may seem like a tall order, but she must have thought that way about you on her wedding day. Strive to regain that confidence & charm again. Just these two things helps to place you in the drivers seat, instead of her.
This is how you started off your second post on this thread: "So I decided to let her know that I just want her to be happy no matter what happens next. I told her that I am grateful that she is still willing to go to an MC with me. The panicky feeling is still there, I have no appetite and I am taking a sleeping pill to try and get some Zzzz's.
Many WAW'S will mistreat, disrespect, and be disgusted with a H who tells them things like you said in that sentence. It's b/c of her WAW mentality. She is hearing you say something completely differently. She's hearing, "No matter how rotten you are to me, I'll still be here waiting for you to throw me a few crumbs. Do whatever makes you happy. My happiness isn't important."
She has to see that you are going to do what it takes to make "you" happy and if she wants to be part of your happy life then she needs to get on board and stop thinking her happiness will be through another man. When you stop kissing her feet (and having cuddling sessions) and stop moping....she'll start watching you and stop wondering what you are thinking, instead of the other way around.
Beginning a new job is a perfect time to change several things that wasn't getting the results you wanted.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
