Freedomland Ahead

[BeingMe]

Just remembered what my H said about himself. He said,"I have become the person I most don't want to be." I knew he meant his father. Then later he said, "he did find happiness eventually." This is someone whose 20 years younger wife (they're both pretty old now) waits on him, almost slave-like. She never complains (that I've heard or seen) about his dalliances (all in the past now, I'm sure, since he's in his late 80's and not healthy). She has stuck with him through thick and thin. I don't want to be that person. I told this to my H, and asked: "Is your dad really happy? If he was, why did he continue with the affairs. He even tried calling your mom awhile after their D, and he was married to his current wife." Is that the actions of a happy man? My perspective is that it's not. He was surprised that his mom told me about these calls. Of course, she wasn't interested. She and I talked a lot about women stuff. Now, sadly, she has altzheimers and doesn't even remember me.

Thinking of the dating site ... I realised why my H was dying his chin beard and moustach (sp?).