After 18 months - H is finally filing.

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wow...

I am so fortunate to come back to my thread after a couple of days and find so much support.
THANK YOU ALL! It means the world to me.

25 - Thanks for all the great legal advice. Yes, it is time to go back and see my L once again.
And to answer your question - I was born and raised in Mexico City. I was very, very fortunate to attend a bilingual school there. I am so, so grateful to my parents for always making education such a priority in my life and all the amazing opportunities I have had because of it.

Now a bit of an update...
I had a great weekend. Kids were with H, so I slept in, relaxed, cleaned the house, went grocery-shopping, read and watched TV. On Sunday I had brunch and a traditional Thai massage with two girlfriends, had coffee and a walk on the beach with another friend, went to mass with my parents and sister and then invited them over for dinner. Monday the kids came back and we went down to SIL's house to spend the day. MIL was also there and we had a great, great day.

I was so tired that I fell asleep on the sofa after I put the kids to bed. Unfortunately when I woke up at 3am I saw a text that H sent me around 11pm telling me that his boss got fired that afternoon and that he might be next.

So that kept me up the rest of the night, of course...

I tried to call him this morning. I missed his call back - he sounded nervous in his message. We finally connected on Tuesday evening. He talked for 25 minutes straight. He might get laid off tomorrow - it's 50/50 at this point. New investors in his company and they are bringing a new CEO, so the new guy might bring his own team and then H would be out.

I listened and validated. I tried to re-assure him that no matter what, he is very intelligent and well-prepared and will find another job if he needs to. The whole conversation felt so familiar since it was a similar one to several others from past situations where one of us was going thru a transitional period in our professional life. Almost like if we were still a team trying to find a solution together...
He was thankful and promised to keep me posted when he knows more.

So now I really, really need to see my L. We were finally starting to breathe easier financially after selling our two homes, but if he gets laid off we will be in deeper trouble.

I could and will go back to work if he loses his job, but I first want to speak to my L to see how and when I should do that. The last thing I want is to go back to work and then have H not make an effort to find a new job to get out of his financial obligations in a D. Ordinarily I would say he would never run from his responsibilities, but given where we currently are, nothing would surprise me now.

And precisely today my sister and I left for my summer vacation with the kids - brought them out to the desert for a few days before they go back to school. I thought about canceling the trip, but decided to wait and see what happens with H's job.

I cannot control his situation and I don't expect him to all of a sudden want to figure this out and work on this together. So I have analyzed my options and will do whatever is needed to protect and care for my kids and myself. I am fortunate to be healthy and have never been afraid of hard work, so I know we will be OK. May be tougher for a while, but not impossible.

So I am not panicking - yet.
LOL...