I've been advised by other members that you could speak her language without pursuing. If she needs quality time you should watch her in her eyes and listen carefully. If she needs physical touch you can use each opportunity to touch her gently. Act of services is very easy - just help her with everything she requests or you expect she will request.
I think that being a lonely mother while her husband was abroad have taught her to cope with life on her own and not miss him. I might be wrong of course. I haven't read the whole story.
