you're welcome, stubborn - you are doing brilliant
keep digging, okay?
what will it take for stubborn to feel that it is completely okay not to want sugar in her food, even if someone else does?
Really I do. I'm stymied by the consequences, though. I understand why P has an unreasonable response to this particular thing. I helped create it and now I get stuck in it.
are you sure you helped create it?
i thought i did too for a long time - similar stuff, then i started to STOP being responsible for my h's decisions on how he was going to react to what ever was in his life, and decided that i would only be responsible for my reactions.
we know now, through all we've learned through DB'ing that only we are responsible for how we choose to react to what comes into our circle. we don't expect to put the blame onto anyone else any longer, because we know we have control over which way we choose to go.
why would we then not apply the same concept to our spouses?
how could you do something different so you don't get stuck in it??
Because she dumped me over her peeves.
yes i was so conscious of that for a long time - it did drive many of the changes i initially made. but there will come a point where you will be independent of that thought and your changes will continue, regardless of whether it was an issue for your spouse or not.
we need to continually strive for that point...
thanks for all the support and the hugs today - it meant a lot to me
((((( ))))) zig
me 46 H 38 M10yrs T 11 S10 BD ow 8/11 h filed 9/25/12
"if i could define enlightenment briefly, i would say it is the quiet acceptance of what is"
