Now, what do you know about OM? You said that your W dated him prior to dating/marrying you, right? Did you ever get any insight on him? Others may argue that OM does not matter and that you should move forward not caring about who OM is or what he is doing... I disagree to a point. I believe that it is important to know what you are up against.
What do you know about him? What did your W like about her prior R with him? What did she not like about it? Why did she end it?
^^ If you know...
Well I know a bit about him. I know he's actually a lot like me as far as personality, musical tastes, sense of humor etc. I also know he's known as a bit of a womanizer, hard-drinking gambling type, VERY cocky/confident... And he's a firefighter. Kind of an Alpha-Male type.
She ended it when she found out he'd been cheating on her tons. They dated long-distance btw. When we discussed him, she always brought up how funny and caring he is, how much he listened to her issues and helped her talk about her dreams and goals (something I THOUGHT I was doing a good job of, but probably not in retrospect). She told me she's always cared deeply about him, but that he was "Incapable of loving her" and that no matter what happened between us, they would "Never be together"... Believe none of what she says...
Originally Posted By: Denver_2010
What can you do NOW to be more exciting, spontaneous, and adventurous?
Well I can certainly do some out of town trips now that I'll be getting some more $ flowing in. Just me going out with more often is being adventurous... and I can tell she's already getting more curious when she's asking of my plans for the upcoming weekend...
But since we're no longer FB friends and she's only following me on Twitter, I'm not sure how she'd ever find out about my 'adventures'. She's defriended everyone in South Florida, all my family and friends... just about anyone we had common connections with... Although I'm still friends with her friends... I just don't post to FB anymore...
