Lost and need some guidance on my next steps

[Denver_2010]

Denver,

Thank you VERY much for reaching out.

Sorry about the great length I always go to, but I'm a writer by trade and by birth, so I truly can't help it!

Hahaha... I am known around here to be pretty long winded myself. You will see that I used to include detail A LOT of detail in my update posts. For me, this was a journal, and a way to get advice and track progress. I believed that that could be done best by including everything, the good and the bad. I didn't hide much. It is all out there for people here to see.

I'm ESPECIALLY interested in the balancing act, as I know W is very sensitive with things like this, has a tendency to react hastily and with great conviction, and is known to hold grudges for an eternity...

You must be married to a relative of my wife. Sounds just like her.

I don't want to undo any of the, at least as I see it, positive progress we've been making, but at the same time, I can't continue to be a doormat or give off the impression that I'm OKAY with what she's doing... I know it's impossible to mind-read and tell if that's what she's thinking, but it scares me that I may be doing more harm than good on my current path...

We'll see. There is no magic answer Alkaline. Every decision you make regarding strategy, every word that you utter, every contact that you have with W, could make or break what happens here. You just don't know. We do the best we can with the knowledge that we gain here, and with what we know of our spouses and ourselves. That's all any of us can do. You have to move forward with conviction, strength, and with confidence, regardless of how you choose to proceed.

I still haven't gone back and read what is going on with you and your M. Just had a meeting. I will try to do that at some point today.

One question that keeps popping up in my mind based on the posts that I have read about your situation, is WHY are you the better man Alkaline?

I believe that you are, merely because I think that any OM that is willing to mess with another man's W is scum. But WHY do you think so?