Hi Alkaline. Starsky asked me to take a look at your situation. I've only had time to read the posts between you and Starsky today. I think that he is giving you great advice. BUT, I do think that you have to be careful in how you go about this. Balancing the two things that you talk about IS terribly difficult.
I will try to read a bit more about your situation and get back to you. I don't like throwing out advice or comparing my situation without knowing a little bit about the other person's situation.
Denver
M 43 X 38 T 13 W moves out of home 11/2010 Roller coaster from hell 2/2011-5/2012 I request divorce 5/2012 W moves home 6/2012 Good time 7/2012 - 1/2015 I leave 3/2016 process of divorce