You know, it's only been a little while that I've been considering this advice Starsky, but I'm having a really tough time seeing much downside...
Honestly, what do I have to lose?
I can tell you what I'm already losing: Dignity, Self-Respect, my positive self-image, and hope that IF we get through this we could be stronger than ever.
The more I continue along this path of being a friend to her while she's with OM, the more I send the message that I'm here... being a doormat... waiting for her to make up her mind and decide that I'm the one...
Tomorrow's conversation with IC will be interesting!