Lots of questions and a good deal of doubt.

[mshaf]

I started reading the 5LLs last night. I haven't finished it yet, so far it is a great guide.

I have wondered on how to respond once more open conversation started and now I feel as if I am gaining some new tools.

I think my W is a "quality time" person.

On that subject W called last night to talk. The conversation was not a long one, but very friendly. She asked if I would be off Wednesday to which I responded yes, and she reminded me our S3 has school at 9am.

When I ended the convo her tone of voice seemed a little sad.

Well, I sat down and thought about the 5LLs and if her love language is "quality time", should I try to open up conversation a little more instead of worrying about being the first to end convos.

I though maybe I should have let the phone call go on a little longer.

So I decided to do something that goes against a lot of the advice on this board. Before I went to bed I sent her a text that simply said "good night". This is something we used to do when we weren't together for the night.

I don't think this was pursuing, and to be honest I had no expectations about a response. I feel asleep shortly after I sent the text. I just wanted to try it out.

Woke up this morning to a response. She text back "Good night!".

I don't think I set myself back, and I have not started any more convo since last night. I will see her tonight when we do the kid exchange, so I can judge more then.

If her love language is "quality time", is it so bad to let her know that I am thinking about her from time to time? Maybe try to hang in the conovs a little longer?

Any advice is greatly appreciated.