I'll leave you (for now, unless you have more questions) with this thought, and really only came here and commented because you asked me to, on mac's thread:
READ MY THREADS (see the "Transparency" thread here in Newcomers). You are VERY much like me, and your wife is VERY much like my wife was! So much so it's a little scary reading your posts. What I'm getting at is, I'm not only trying to tell you what I WOULD do, I'm telling you what I DID do, and it worked. 5 years later my wife and I have celebrated our 25th wedding anniversary, our 50th birthdays, and the birth of our beautiful little granddaughter, and our relationship has never been closer.
