No, it doesn't make a difference in my main point.
"I would LOVE for you to say, but I won't be a part of your life so long as OM is in it" should have been your position, should STILL be your position, and -- as you'll see from Denver's sitch, when you research it -- you can incorporate that very clear, strong stance INTO your "fight" for her.
sorry, that should have read "love for you to STAY," not "say."
