Those words have not come out of my mouth, and clearly my actions haven't purveyed that message.
The thing I'm struggling with most, I believe, is the disparate advice on being a friend and person that W would be a fool to leave and breaking off all contact until OM is out of the picture.
***I believe it's possible to do both.
IC suggests that she's off exploring a long-standing "Star-Crossed Lovers" situation which may be exactly what is needed to finally end her vast confusion and decide to either leave or give it another go.
***I personally could never be someone's backup plan. Maybe that's just me, but let me ask you this: How confident are you that your wife knows that you know (that she's having an affair)?
