And your response to this belief has been to pursue her?
Have you ever told her -- by word or more importantly by your actions -- that you are unwilling to live in an open marriage? Or, I like how Denver puts it, "I will not be a part of your life so long as OM is a part of it" ??
Starsky
Those words have not come out of my mouth, and clearly my actions haven't purveyed that message.
The thing I'm struggling with most, I believe, is the disparate advice on being a friend and person that W would be a fool to leave and breaking off all contact until OM is out of the picture.
IC suggests that she's off exploring a long-standing "Star-Crossed Lovers" situation which may be exactly what is needed to finally end her vast confusion and decide to either leave or give it another go. In the meantime, I'm working through as many of my issues as I can while maintaining a line of communication.
As I'm sure you can easily tell from my waffling throughout the situation, I am having a very hard time contemplating cutting off all communication, or even confronting her in such a black-and-white way as to tell her that I'll have nothing to do with her life as long as OM is in the picture... It seems like an ultimatum to me, something I know that she never responds well to...
