I honestly don't want you guys to think you're wasting your time with me. I'd be completely lost if that's the case. I really need some support here. Some direction and meaning.
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Starsky I truly value your friendship and your guidance. I'm really getting lost in the "waiting" stage. Two months and counting. Two months of saying "no can do in this sitch as it now stands". What the heck is going on here. I'm getting as confused as she is.
Mac,
Have you read my old threads? Have you read Denver's? Do you see ANYTHING in how we handled our sitches (two very different -- and at times even opposite -- approaches, btw) that would indicate that giving your wife this little "care package" was even REMOTELY a good idea??
Please re-read what everyone has posted to you. Again. And tell me where ANY of us said to "ignore" your wife. In fact, I have specifically advised you to stop being so passive-aggressive, and to DIRECTLY talk to her, politely but firmly, and stop dancing this dance she has you doing.
You do not need to apologize to me -- you owe me nothing. But I honestly can't see where I'm helping you any, when you don't apply any of what we suggest. You've been at this HOW long now? You are stuck in the same spot most people are maybe two weeks post-bomb. And unless you change your approach, you will STAY forever stuck in this spot (or worse).
I'm sorry to be so harsh. I really don't know any other way to say it.
