I don't post too often, but wanted to add something concerning "wedding anniversaries". This week marked what would have been my 43rd anniversary. We have been divorced many yrs after a 29 yr marriage. EX left me for OW he is still living with-no marriage plans that I am aware of , although they have been engaged for yrs.
Several yrs ago, ex and I were on phone concerning a problem with one of our children, when we both realized it was our anniversary. Very uncomfortable moment and then one of us said Happy ex anniversary, to which we both chuckled. Ever since then ex has left a voicemail saying only that he remembers what day it is-that's all he says.
This yrs message was a little different- he called stating that 43 yrs ago at this time we were at the church ,both with knots in our stomach due to nerves and getting ready for the ceremony. He also made a comment about driving to our honeymoon location and wished me a Happy Ex Anniversary!
All the yrs before when he called, it made me happy because I thought somewhere deep down he still cared, but didn't know how to handle it. This yr-it actually kind of made me mad. My first thought was he is such a cake-eater! The night before he was actually at a ski expo with OW, planning their next yrs ski trips! Then calls me the next day to wish me Happy Ex Anniversary--what is up with that???? How was the ex anniversary celebrated--he was out with OW on their weekly Friday night movie date and I was cooking dinner for our schizophrenic adult son who spends Friday night with me!
Why am I even typing this---because I spent so many yrs reading way more into his "friendliness", than what was actually there. I think he just wants to be seen as a nice guy, and prove that by being "friends" with ex. I don't want anyone else to fall into the trap I did.
