Bklyn Mom I think you're right that it is a factor. He did admit that he thinks its my fault for the kids being the way they are; it's one of the reasons he gave his mom last year for why he wanted a divorce. I don't think it's the only factor but definitely one. Talking with the counselor the few times he did I think opened his eyes just a little.

I asked him last night if he ever did any of the things s is doing and he did not, not at his age and some things not ever. He never smoked at all, not anything. He never drank in high school. He was too busy working hard to get into a good college. I think he just plain doesn't understand why his kids aren't like he was.

I asked him if he ever lied to his mom, and he said he never did; his mom never asked him any questions.

Adinva 51, S20, S18
M24 total
6/15/11-12/1/12 From IDLY to H moving out
9/15/15-3/7/17 From negotiating SA to final D at age 50
5/8/17-now: New relationship with an old friend
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