can Turtles still stand?

[zig]

thanks ng- for the advice on the house.

i do realize those things - but h is standing hi ground on that - let's see what happens and what the mediator says about it this morning - first thing , yuck

it occurred to me last night - that he could be taking that stance because he wants to walk away from the responsibility of the house also. he's not acknowledging that he owns it halfway with me - but seeing it as oh this is all yours mostly so not really mine to deal with amy longer.

one of the things that i'm planning to do is treat my buying his share over as a business proposal - would i buy this if it was from a stranger by just saying okay, take it as it is? i want the inspections done again (he's going to blow that off and ridicule it, probably) and some things fixed before i agree to take it over.

otoh, i know i have to be careful, because he may get pissed and insist that i sell it. and right now i really don't want to move. this is not a house i would have considered buying if i knew i was going to have it alone. the only reason i can afford to live in it is because it's paid off.

i'm going to listen more than talk today.

forgot to write last night - actually i was just really tired - but i did a couple of good things for myself. i found out that the immigration application does not get affected one bit by any D proceedings. that was a huge relief for me. i actually realized that i do not want to have any reasons to slow this down.

i also think i found a lawyer - left a message for him, and hopefully he will call back today.

i did, in the morning - leave a message for h saying my appointment had been changed and so i was free to go to the mediator with him, and he didn't need to dance.

we talked a couple of times, and he sounds a tad bit vague about everything and keeps going on about how she is going to take care of everything. he keeps asking me what i want to do - which i find rather odd. it's as if he really really needs me to want to do this together - to sort of lead it?

i talked to a friend yesterday morning before this - and she was like - zig, drop the rope - stop trying to slow this down - just let it happen.

and i did - and there was a lot of peace - after that.

thanks for the black label ng - i'm enjoying it with you all

more later -

hope you're well - i'll come catch up later tonight

(((((( ))))))
zig