a new perspective

[strongerthanever]

Wellll.....the divorce has been busted. Not DB, I mean busted as in the case was closed sure to inactivity with no decree granted. That's something to celebrate, right?

H filled as a "ha I beat you to it" move BC I told him that I was filing. I did not respond to being served, nor did I act like the d process was going on.. We both attended the initial status conference....and then I waited and stayed quiet about that topic. Heck, we even ml one week after the congreve!
I felt most comfortable letting him set the pace as far as progress with paperwork was concerned. And since he didn't make a move, and neither did I, it's closed.

So now what? I mean it's not exactly a game changer, we have not reconciled. All it tells me is that for right now, he is not wanting to pursue the d process.

As for me, I need to stay consistent with who I really am, regardless of h behavior and continue to focus on making the most of my life and my girls.

I have struggled lately and I think it's BC I have not known how to act in response to his actions. I know better than that. I need to stop being immature and giving him reasons to rejustify his position. I think the Key to consistency is it makes them see that the potential for the life they seek has always been there, they are the only missing piece.