I just took the ex to court for the first time and I was scared to death, almost backing out at the last minute. He felt he has no obligation to pay a cent for our daughter's college expenses. I felt otherwise. Now it's in the judge's hands.
I'm ramping up my job hunting skills after being very involved in my daughter's activities. She leaves for college next Monday!
Overall I'm doing so much better than in the past. Learning and recognizing boundaries has been so helpful making life much easier. Recently my sons (now 26 and 22) have acknowledged and thanked me for how I've kept them out of the conflicts between their father and me. Folks told me that day would come and it's good to know that all that effort worked out best for them (and me in the long run).
Good luck in your court case and keeping the bond strong between you and your son. And congratulations on your former spouse cohabitating with another man. Remember, her affair is old news and has nothing to do with you anymore. I know I work on letting go of the 'injustice' that led to the divorce. In the end my happiness is my choice. Getting revved up over the ex's behavior does me absolutely no good.
Take care and continue embracing what is most important... your family.
