i actually read your post this morning and it really helped me to come around and lose a lot of the resistance I was felling within me.
This may be the only true acknowledgement you will ever get from him. So do not deny him this chance.
this was huge for me today - i really sat on it and began to change my perspective so much. at first it made me weep and weep - that this may be the only acknowledgement, but the more i began to accept that, the easier it became for me to understand where i stood and what i could accept myself.
so i am deeply grateful to you for giving me this other perspective. in accepting it, it has brought me a lot of peace.
aslo thanks for the suggestion about the temporary alimony - i think it is a great one, and will consider how i can approach it.
your last sentence - one could say that is a common goal for both of us. we care deeply about the quality of life that we give our s, and i know it is as important for h to know that s is okay at my place as it is for me to know s is ok at his.
thanks for helping me through the difficult time i had the last couple of days
hope you are well? zig
me 46 H 38 M10yrs T 11 S10 BD ow 8/11 h filed 9/25/12
"if i could define enlightenment briefly, i would say it is the quiet acceptance of what is"
