BTW I finished reading DR. Too bad the depression section is very brief and short. I can't wait to read the Depression fallout, I ordered from Amazon . Sometimes I re-read some of the steps, specially the last resort technique.
Good stuff. Let me know how the trapeze school goes! I was on a trip to Miami a few months ago and while walking around at dinner time, I found a place that was giving trapeze lessons. Looked like fun!
If you read through any of the threads on this board (and I recommend you do) you may find a comparison of the WAS to a "squirrel". They are skittish and nervous creatures. Your changes and confidence will spark curiosity in them to come close but the slightest movement can send them scurrying away in a flash.
Have fun dancing. Just be aware. For many its a fun relaxing activity, for others, its a chance to meet someone new. Be aware of what you want and prepare yourself.
I completely get the not wanting to be at home by yourself. My W & kids went away for several weeks this summer. I stayed out of the house as much as possible. Way to much quiet and the mind went to places that were not good for me. Glad you've got friends to spend time with.
Me:45, W:45 S:16 D:13 M:22, T:25 Bomb: July 2010 Putting finances in order for "D" Continue to live in same home-separate rooms
Surprise...surprise... H just called I was moping the floor while my mom was bathing the little one, he asked me how I was and how was the little one...awkward silence...then I said "how are you" he said he was ok ((awkward)) silence...then he said " I'm sorry, for all the hurt Ive caused you, I don't think I will ever forgive myself... I feel like I'm horrible father to our son because I still haven't found a place of my own and I'm short of money" I told him " I told him very calmly: "We should talk about these things face to face not over the phone, nobody is perfect, everyone makes mistakes, this whole mess was not only your fault but mine too...Anyways I gotta go finish mopping these floors or I will never finish doing chores today" " He said "ok" He sounded very sad.
Wow, today has been a very surprising day...I sent H a pic of our son sleeping and he replied a few minutes later " he's sleeping already :(" 45 minutes later Me: yeah he just fell asleep
H: I'm f*** depressed, I feel like sh*t
Me: if you need to talk to someone I'm still awake
H: No, I just took a sleeping pill, I can't drive home
me: OK, but try to sleep you need energy for tomorrow, you are a strong man and our son needs you.
H:I know but I have to be absent, I need to work harder.
me:I understand
H: Have a goodnight
me: you too.
What surprised me the most is that he admits he has a problem , but I don't know how to approach him to get help.
It will probably be a longer process for him and while you might (emphasis on "might") be able to influence him some, it is ultimately his choice and his timing. That's one of the hard parts of this. You can't set the framework or the timeline. That's why its important to keep your focus on strengthening yourself. You can by all means, be sympathetic and compassionate towards his issues, but detaching is important to not allow yourself to get caught up in his emotional ride.
The txt does look like the squirrel is still peaking around with curiosity....
Me:45, W:45 S:16 D:13 M:22, T:25 Bomb: July 2010 Putting finances in order for "D" Continue to live in same home-separate rooms
This morning I sent H a pic of our son watching t.v:
H: I see him!
me: How are you?
H: F*CK! I gotta pay the cable bill(yeah the cable bill and most of his bills are still being sent @ our home)
Me: I thought you paid it already?
H:no, I'm broke
Me: btw you received a letter from the gas company
H: crap! Another bill?! I'm broke...
Me: have a great day
NO REPLY
-----I called home this afternoon and my mom told me he was there playing with the little one, that he asked if I was coming back tomorrow, she says he's very quiet....
Yeah< I'm being very patient about this whole situation, I try not to think of him, because whenever I do I get sad. BTW, I went to the trapeze school and it was fun! Everyone should at least try it once in their lifetime! LOL, I felt like a a kid!
last night after I finish typing my last post H called (I was surprised). He still wants me to forgive him, he keeps repeating the same things over and over again...I told him, that I needed to get up early in the morning. Then he said "OK" then again with the same thing that he can't find a place of his own...
I called my mom this afternoon because I wanted to know how's my son and she told me H came over for lunch and he asked her at what time I was going to come home (curious "squirrel"?)
. Sometimes I re-read some of the steps, specially the last resort technique.
lol a "squirrel"...I've been reading some of the stories and threads, I enjoy reading them and the advices are so positive and constructive. 
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