1) stbx agreed that I was right on the reno issue and re-agreed to go forward on it, and 2) he apologized if the tone of his emails over the past few days came across negatively because that was not his intent.
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I'm not keeping score, but it seems like logic won a point in there somewhere
I think his email tone was an effort for him to sound puffed up and defending territory because he's compensating for not being as knowledgable about this process as I am comparatively.
A lot of my anxiety seriously comes from feeling like he's "dangerous" as he really doesn't know the process and assuming he's trying to play this to get something extra out of me that he's not entitled to. Frankly, he's just not smart enough at this to do that. I need to keep remembering that. It keeps me calmer and more relaxed. By the end of the evening I was able to crack a few jokes about him wanting to take the nice tv.
We've agreed to sit down and discuss a bunch of the property issues on Sunday.
I was thinking earlier today that I need to remember to face this straight on - the quickest (and only) way out is through.
I will keep in mind that it's probably best not to get too in depth on this stuff over email because he takes it the wrong way and then his responses stress me out.
He also revealed that he's sharing a condo with a woman. after asking me if he'd told me about her (uh, no), he was very quick to point out that she's a lesbian. Ah.
