You deserve happiness and joy. Why wouldn't you set that as your goal?
Look at me. I thought I had no future in a relationship AT ALL> I have a severely handicapped son who takes up so much of my time and energy. But the RIGHT person was able to see past that. And accepted me for me - warts and all.
If I had settled for me being "comfortable" - I could never have found happiness and joy as I know it.
