Thanks timbits, I am glad to see you out of that apt.
Got an email back to mine appealing to his logic on doing the reno. He said it made sense. He did not say anything else on that or agree to it per se but said he could provide what financial info he has so far. his response was definitely not as charged an email as the previous ones were. Power packaging at work here. Good life lesson. Also - sitting on the drafts and deleting out stuff coming from my feelings of anger or hurt - those just get bounced back to me.
