Denver i just want to echo..i am a teacher too and get getting ready to start the new school year and yes while the 2 or three months off is restful for sure, starting agin is stressful beacuse of new kids, parent demands, wanting to get it right and like fig said being 'on' all day. lots of intense personal issues comes along with the teaching, kids own personal problems, home issues, problems to learning, etc.
i am sure the crankiness will subside once the routine is back on track.
you are a great man denver. your compassion and strength is admirable. thank you for sharing all that you have.
busting
TPS Me: 44 H: 42 M14 T17 S10 D7 10/10 H moves out after death of his father-same month 21/04/12 H is 'DONE' 04/05/12 OW/PA confirmed (rumors from 2010) July '14 H ends affair May '15 H moves back home
Yes, I am trying to be understanding of the stress that she is feeling. She actually apologized last night for being so irritable and for neglecting me. It was nice of her and made me feel better.
M 43 X 38 T 13 W moves out of home 11/2010 Roller coaster from hell 2/2011-5/2012 I request divorce 5/2012 W moves home 6/2012 Good time 7/2012 - 1/2015 I leave 3/2016 process of divorce
Just scheduled some flowers to be sent to my wife on Friday. Man, she and SS have both been bears this week... and it's only Tuesday! Whose idea was it to start school at the crack of dawn??!!
M 43 X 38 T 13 W moves out of home 11/2010 Roller coaster from hell 2/2011-5/2012 I request divorce 5/2012 W moves home 6/2012 Good time 7/2012 - 1/2015 I leave 3/2016 process of divorce
LOL! I know! These days, they get a month for Christmas break, fall break (WTF is that??!), and so many other 'no contact' days, that they have to make up the hours somehow. It's kind of ridiculous.
M 43 X 38 T 13 W moves out of home 11/2010 Roller coaster from hell 2/2011-5/2012 I request divorce 5/2012 W moves home 6/2012 Good time 7/2012 - 1/2015 I leave 3/2016 process of divorce
How about we just GO TO SCHOOL during the school year, give them a week @ Christmas, a week @ Easter, the 4-day T'giving weekend, and then an ACTUAL SUMMER OFF???
How about we just GO TO SCHOOL during the school year, give them a week @ Christmas, a week @ Easter, the 4-day T'giving weekend, and then an ACTUAL SUMMER OFF???
That's what I say!
M 43 X 38 T 13 W moves out of home 11/2010 Roller coaster from hell 2/2011-5/2012 I request divorce 5/2012 W moves home 6/2012 Good time 7/2012 - 1/2015 I leave 3/2016 process of divorce
Denver - happy for you! Following your thread. I do have to say I am a bit envious you get so much traffic. It seems I have to beg to get someone to comment on my thread!! Oh well. I hope this isn't a threadjack-wondering if it was someone you or STarsky who said we should never mention the OP to our spouses because it can do "strange" things to them.?! Transport them back to their R and the feelings they had for them?!? IS that right? I have to say I have slipped up in that area. I will post more on my thread- "Now the work begins". I could use some feedback from others. Thank you.
I have said before that ANY contact -- even NEGATIVE contact -- with a former affair partner can set the recovering formerly-wayward spouse back into withdrawal. Just having others mention the person, and/or keeping you posted on what they are doing (even if it's a NEGATIVE report about the person) is detrimental to marital recovery.
