Vero - I go to Alanon regualarly. I still dont have a sponser but I am looking. I do have a whole network of Alanon friends that I am able to confide in. I love it and need it. It is my church.
One of the hardest things about this whole sitch is realizing that you cant share this with everyone. My best friend, maid of honor at my wedding, although she knows the whole story her advice is very angry so I cant really talk to her. Because I think my husband has lost his mind she thinks I am in denial. Alanon has given me the tools to know I dont have to tell everyone my story.
Recently I have become very opening about telling everyone even aquiantances that I am separated. Although I hate saying those words it has been quite liberating. After I say we are separated I use my favorite new line "We definitely need to go for a drink soon so I can tell you all about it"
I love my new line. It gives me a comfortable way not to share details with anyone since I am never going to follow up on the drinks
---- M 39 H 35 D5,D4 M 4 T 9 ILYBNILWY 5/18/11 Left 7/11/11 Divorced 12/1/13
