Needing some guidance... 5

[reachingHigher]

Jks, first I picked a town that I liked the type of activity there. In my case, I picked the university town, and we are in the Bble belt so I was hoping for an intellectual-type Christian.

Then I called our insurance provider and asked for a list of all preferred counselors. Then I took the list and looked through their websites looking for "solution-based therapy". And someone who works with couples, and specifically reigniting the spark or dealing with midlife crisis.

Then I called and talked to the person on the phone. That can tell you a lot.

I got some of those ideas from DR. I don't have it in front of me right now but I thought there was a section on finding the right therapist. If you don't click with them, don't go back.

Take your mom or a friend the first time too, is an idea. They might see something you don't -- a red flag or a way they could help you if you don't see it.

I took H on the first one. I was crushed he didn't want to continue, but in hindsight, I really needed it for myself. And you do too.

How thIs can help a little bit. I saw a quote the other day something like, "if you want something new and different, you have to do something new and different". Simplistic but true!