I am reaching the one year mark of being a LBS, mine is a long story mostly journaled here - feel free to review at your leisure.
Regarding you and your H. I would strongly caution you to take a deep look into why you want to get back on track with him. Is it because he is with OW? The last thing you would want to do is somehow draw him back in and realize that you did it for the wrong reasons and put him through the ringer again. I am going to guess that he has gone through emotional hell trying to get over you and move on. Maybe he's there - maybe he's not. Either way - you need to be 100% sure that your feelings are not fleeting or a reaction to him moving on without you.
Additionally, do you think the core problems in your M have changed? Improved? If not, chances are you will land right back in the same spot again.
I could say more, but you get the point. As a man whose wife left (who would want nothing more than to have her back) think about his perpective for awhile - it seems that you have. If you really think you want R back, give him time and reason to trust. But most importantly, MEAN it when you say you want him back....all of him.
