this morning my H is "asking, me" for help with his new realization that he's "not" young and getting more unhealthy.
H is very much in male menopause, loosing his muscle mass steadily, no libido, ED, and has made his life worse w/smoking. the anger over the last yr has seemed to settle into his spine creating shoulder, arm, and lower lumbar issues he can no longer deal with.
He is asking me to get him testosterone, find him easier work, giving me his greif (sadly, not in anger) of how he didn't make it, there isn't enough time in life, he's such a failure....blah blah!
What do I do? I tried helping in the beginning, yes I understand that was not in his time, and not by his request. So does this time make a difference because hes coming to me. Obviously, i don't jump in full force and take over, do I guide, give him the number to the doctor (he wont call), just listen kindly?
I could really use some advise with this, this stage is so wishy washy, so come and go, I can dont want to be sucked into something, manipulated, but I don't want to ignore him as this may be genuine.
I will be here all day, reading and rereading.
I actually resent this a little, like now I'm useful again, now that your defeated and you see me strong you some of that for yourself. AAAHHH!
It'll help his "testosterone" to have a proper male/female interaction. I mean some supplication, a few kind words and physical affirmations over time will add up to him feeling alot better about himself. Why not?
