Hey Mandy, I am very new here but your story touches my heart. I am on the opposite side of your story but our situations are very similar. I am only one week in though. My W is now a WAW. We have been together for 8 years and I love her more than life itself! I have lost myself in the last 2-3 years, I lost a great job and then I got lazy. I stopped being "a man". I wasn't supportive, and I wasn't "there" for her.
I knew a month before she left that I was in big trouble, I had let things get way beyond critical. I knew immediately that I needed to step up, get a second job, and change my NEGATIVE attitude. I didnt share my feelings of embarrassment and shame with her, I kept it bottled, I just wanted to fix everything and make the pain go away. HUGE mistake, I didnt know she had already disconnected and been planning to walk away.
As much as I am to blame for this though, I believe I DESERVE a second chance, I am solely committed to making her happy and being there for her for the rest of her live. I cherish and adore her. And right now she needs space and it feels like she is toying with my emotions. I have been GAL, working out, lost 15lbs, have a new second job. But I have had to start the LRT. There was no cheating or abuse from me. I got negative and stopped being her refuge and rock. But I DESERVE a second chance to prove my love and devotion to her and I am not going sit around and justify her decision to stay away from me by reciprocating the "Good morning, have a great day!" and "Good night, sweet dreams :)" texts. As much as it crushes my heart to do this, she knows that she has my heart and I need her to CHOOSE ME!
Sorry for rambling. I hope that my situation never gets to 8 months like yours. I have been through a D before. I know she is that one that I was destined to be with forever, she has everything I was ever looking for in a W.
A lot of things can and do happen in 8 months, wounds scar over. That the body's way of protecting itself for the future.
I would say if you truly believe you are meant for each other and you believe you can reciprocate each others true needs and love, don't give up. If you had any kind of R like my W and I had then its worth fighting for and he will recognize that if he feels the same way. Falling for another woman is easy after seperation, men with a strong emotional side crave the comfort of a caring woman and have a lot to offer because they know exactly what they screwed up before. But that doesn't fill the void of TRUE love. If you had it once, he will want it back just like you do.
Like I said I am very new here and I dont have near the knowledge that others here do, but your story hits close to home so I wanted to give you my thoughts. I would love to hear your thoughts and advise on my situation. I have a thread on the forum.
