New to DB

[hopefulinga]

Thanks, LA. It has been tough. I talked to a friend of mine this am about how difficult it has been and how H has been acting. She made me feel better and told me that she understood and knew that he was being crappy to me because I am the W (she knows nothing of our situation).

I left H a VM today that I am here for him and will support him in any way I can. I know this has been rough because everyone is calling him for info and he has not had time to grieve on his own. I know that other people do not take his feelings into account. I would say this guy was in his inner circle of about 3.

He is still coming home for dinner and telling me it is good. When he's late, I don't complain. I forgot yesterday that the NTSB would be at the airport at 7:30 and I think he wanted to be there for that. So that may be the reason for not wanting to eat.

You are right about the hero part. The problem is, he rarely does anything around the house, even after I ask. So, I will have to come up with something. I know that I am not good about thanking him and stroking his ego. And that is on my list of things to improve.

He likes me to be independent, but it also bites me in the butt relationship wise. He's offered me up to 2 people in the past week to assist with problems. He likes to boast that his W is a lawyer. He's always said he was fine with my level of education, but I am not always sure. I think he is a little jealous of me sometimes. He told me he wanted a financial equal, which he got. But he may have sacrificed not having a woman who thinks he hangs the moon 24/7.

So lots of things I can work on. Thank you again for your words and support. We will get through it. I just have to realize that I cannot fix this, so the fixer needs to go away.