I am saying that yes you should be fair. But if he offers more to you. Then take it and get it in writing and witnessed. Let him have this opportunity to step up and deal with his choices and what he thinks are some of his consequences. This may be the only true acknowledgement you will ever get from him. So do not deny him this chance.

You can be fair on Alimony. If you feel you do not need it or just for a little bit then offer that. Or the other way around.

What is important is to secure support for the children , 6 months to a year out of living expenses via work , alimony and child support ( or blended )

Then to fairly divide up your retirement income.

You do not want to leave him financially ruined. Nor do you want to leave yourself financially ruined.

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