New to DB

[mamabird]

Hey there.
Sounds like life has been a little extra rough this weekend. Hang in there. Your H needs you around right now even if he's not admitting it. If you can be silently supportive somehow he might appreciate that.

How to make him your hero? I think you might have to wait for that opportunity to come up. Maybe ask him to do something around the house and then compliment his wonderful job on it? You don't want to sound disingenuous, and it's probably hard for you to lay it on thick. Men like to have their ego stroked but you are an independent woman which makes it a little less natural to do that.

Sounds like he is going through some tough stuff. Do your thing, be nice, but realize (and expect) that he is going to try to pull away as much as he can. My own H refuses to eat dinner with us too by the way, and I think this is partially as an insult - he knows I take pride in cooking, so refusing to eat it is like the toddler who exerts control by not eating.