I agree with pretty much everything Sandi said ^^^.

About the rebound thing, is that you or the OW? If it's you, figure out why you would do that and thing work to change.

If it's OW, not your problem and it's again you turning the focus off of you.

Me 57/H 58
M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13

Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do.
I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering.
Caroline Myss