So reading threads again and noticing all the same song, next verse, a little bit louder and a little bit worse behaviour.
I tried to have a discussion with STBXH yesterday about stuff. And he demonstraited swiss cheese memory, complete lack of caring about our children and in general a big fat case of dumb.
I called him on some stuff he said to me. He looks at me like I'm making stuff up. I asked him why he says mean things and then can't even remember what he has said. His reply was that he doesn't understand why we are rehashing the past. And I asked how can we be rehashing what you can't even remember having talked about? (Okay, silly me.)
Why was I mad and even wasting my breath taking to him? Because he asked me to watch a TV show with him. And then he got weird when I left the room after the one show. And I came back and ranted because he said: "You are the one divorcing me."
And it made me mad. I filed the papers because I won't stay married to someone who has choosen to be in a relationship with someone else. While still legally married to me. And who says it is all my fault. And this all started because he asked me for a piece of jewelry I had made for him years ago. And I gave it to him along with a ring he got in Saudi. But it brought up all these feelings. So if OW is reading along, I designed that beautiful gold and lapis pendant showcasing the gold nugget he found when he was 13.
I quit taking the anti-depressants, they were making me a zombie. And I quit taking ambien because I had been on it for several years. I didn't have trouble sleeping until all this crap started. He said he preferred zombie me. But I don't.
So anyway I wanted to talk to STBXH about how we are going to handle the money when the D is final in a few days. And he said we are going to split the bills 50/50 until we sell the house. I told him I don't see how I am going to pay half the bills for this house when I am actually getting less than 1/3 of the money. And he said that since I am getting 1/2 the assets I should pay 1/2 the bills.
The 1/2 the assets is something I get WHEN WE SELL THE HOUSE. It is imaginary money until then. He also threatened to cut off the DirecTV and mobile phones. Funny, funny, funny. I am not the one who talks on the phone twice a day to my long distance girl-friend. Nor am I the one who is addicted to the boob tube.
Anyway, like OW used to say about her now X: It's like talking to your dog. Totally pointless. My about to be X currently has zero dealing with our finances. And I pushed for the D because I felt so trapped by his inability to move on. As much as he hates it he will have to actually sit down with me and look at the finances. Together, and make informed decisions based on facts, not what ever the heck is going on in that dark empty place where he used to keep his brain.
Maybe I shouldn't have pushed, but I think living in the same house with someone who claims to love someone else is just too much to bear. And that's the truth!
Me 57 XH 58 Sons age 32 & 27 M:32 D final 9/12 Bought 10 Acres and Living the Dream!
