Sit and decide exactly what you want: alimony, house, child support, items from the house etc. right now when you make decisions and their are emotions are involved you might make decisions that you regret later on either because you were too hard or too soft. I know I regretted keeping some things that I later gave to Him. You can't think about his feelings and what's fair to him. Seperate this sitch from you R. You can be fair and firm and still have a friendship.
